Life Lessons from pop- culture

As Yuppies’s, pop-culture influences our lives on many levels. Most of what we see, hear

and learn through pop-culture is not very insightful; however, sometimes you come across 

something that really hits close to home. 

 Mark Waters movie Mean Girls is one funny-assed movie. It was actually one of the first 

satirical movies that I really enjoyed (don’t judge me!). Anyway, it was on t.v the other 

day and one quote really stood out to me. It was close to the end of the movie when LiLo 

has a moment of realization and she says:

“Calling somebody else fat

won't make you any skinnier.

Calling someone stupid

doesn't make you any smarter.

And ruining Regina George's life

definitely didn't make me any happier.

All you can do in life is try to solve

the problem in front of you.”

I got a lot of positive feedback from my previous post and this quote just reminded me of 

it so I thought I would share it.

I believe that if we concentrate on the positives in life, and in people as a whole, our lives 

will be happier and our world a better place. This might sound corny, but its how I feel. I 

find that often people “hate” on others for no valid reason. Granted, not everyone likes 

everyone but I just do not like people that rarely have positive things to say about others.

By no means am I saying everyone has to be nice, this message is strictly for all the 

HATERS out there.

Lesson to be learned: Don’t hate without a valid reason. Solve the problem that is 

in front of you. ;)

Hmmm…Who woulda thought that Lilo could be so insightful? lol

xoxo 

YP

Brown Girl Rant

Okay, it has been too long since I last blogged. I know I said I was going to blog about my Euro-Trip and I will; it’s a work in progress. My European adventure was a blast, but there is one funny thing that Europe taught me, Brown Girls (Desi’s, Indians whatever you wanna call em) are gonna be haters ANYWHERE! I mean… come on women, relax! 

I realize she's not 'brown'- but you get the point!

To put this all into context, in London, V and I went to a club in Camden called ‘Shaka Zulu’. It is a South African inspired club and is simply beautiful (http://www.shaka-zulu.com). We were there with a group of friends and having a great time until we noticed all the looks and nasty stares from all the brown girls at the club. I am not talking about “Look at those skanks” stares or anything, bc we were both covered up and NOT at all acting like fools…. These were just mean, rude stare downs! NO SHAME stare downs, kinda like “Yeah, I am looking at you and WHAT?” There came a point where we were literally fed-up and uncomfortable so we asked them what the problem was. Did they have one, NO! They just continued with the looks and the rolling of the eyes.

We did not know these girls; we didn’t say anything to them (until much later into the night when we asked them if there was a problem); but they didn’t like us. I know this is a really extreme example, and this obviously does not happen all the time, but I feel like most girls can relate to this. I just don’t understand why when most brown girls meet others, they tend to not like them before they like them. Non-Indian people are really good in this case. For the most part when you meet or see one another, you’re typically nice and cordial and will only be rude or show attitude if something calls for it. I wish brown girls would extend the same kindness to one another. I just don’t see why we can’t?! I mean why do brown girls have to look at one another in such a judgmental fashion right from the get-go? Why are we greeted with stank looks and eye rolling before a simple “Hi” or a smile?

Dramatization of the Classic Screw-Face

Growing up, I was always told that I have a very stern, mean… ‘bi*ch’, if you will, look- it’s natural I cannot help it (but I am trying)! When people don’t know me they often tend to think I am rude or even bi*chy… however, as soon as I make eye contact with someone, or meet someone, they come to realize that this look of mine is just that, a look… and in fact I am a nice, fun, loving person. I give most girls the same benefit of the doubt that I hope people give me. I don’t expect people to be super friendly and smile at strangers and be fake, but I do ask that if  you are one of those brown girls who has this perma ‘stank look’ work on it, as I am, because it can come across very rude and I am sure that’s not always what you want.

I do not want to be friends with everyone I meet, but I do not see the harm is being NICE to people… I mean why not? What do you have to lose? By no means am I saying ALL brown girls are this way, but I think many of us can relate to these types of situations and I do not think I am the only one who feels this way. The point I am trying to make here is: Let’s try to be nicer to each other! If you see someone and think she's pretty, tell her that instead of giving her a rude stare-down. If you meet someone new, smile before you roll your eyes. If we all do these little things, maybe we won't hate on each other so much. Just some food for thought.

YP.